Would You Like To Leave a Tip? Restaurants are Feeling Diners’ Tipping Fatigue.

No matter where you go or what you buy, technology has touched nearly every part of dining out right now. You tap your card for coffee, a drink, or a candy bar. And, like clockwork, the tablet screen swings around, and that all-too-familiar screen rears its head :

 

The checkout tip screen on Clover POS

 

And it’s feeling like we’re asked to tip more—and for more things than ever. On social media, creators lament this “tipping fatigue,” creating fun, fictional scenarios where tip prompts appear after a doctor’s visit or a friendly hangout that feels all too real.

According to a new Pew Research Center survey, the share of Americans who go “cashless” has doubled in the past few years. In 2022, 41% of American consumers say they don’t use cash in a given week, up from 29% in 2018 to 24% in 2015.

Paying more via card and digital wallets means we’re confronted with the tip screen more often than ever before. So while the social media outcry may seem exaggerated (as it usually is), “tip-flation” is real.

“It does seem like these [tip] screens are turning a passive failure to tip into an active decision not to. If I don’t put money in a [cash] tip jar, it’s a sin of omission. If I choose not to tip on a screen, it’s a sin of commission. We tend to be more forgiving of the former,” says Mike Lynn, a nationally-recognized tipping expert, and Professor of Services Marketing at Cornell University’s School of Hotel Administration.

When you’re standing across from the tip recipient, the digital screen creates an interaction that makes many—diners and workers—feel awkward. It’s a pressure that an unassuming cash tip jar doesn’t give. But the digital interaction, along with the swiftness of digital transactions, had helped restaurant workers earn more tips—and increase their take-home as a result (explore other tip jar ideas):

According to data from Toast, tip amounts on digital or card transactions were 9.9 percent higher in the second quarter of 2022 than in 2021.

But how much of that is from record inflation? Only time will tell, but the average tip percentage of the total bill, according to that same data, is on a slight downward slope, at 0.3% fewer than a year ago.

And the early pandemic inspired generosity from consumers, compensating restaurant workers for the risk of coming in with the danger of coronavirus looming.

Haley N, a restaurant worker from the DC suburbs, said, “When the tip prompt was implemented, our paychecks went up BIG TIME. This was with height-of-the-pandemic sympathy, though.”

Now, it’s a bit of a different tune.

“Almost everyone who’s working takeout orders has just started telling people to press the red X button at the bottom to bypass the tip prompt lately because even after giving the spiel about how to follow the prompt on the card reader, most people have just been selecting no tip,” says Haley N.

Regardless of how social media feels, digital tipping is here to stay (for now). But what are the rules of engagement?

The (new) rules of tipping in the digital age

With this new technology comes new rules of etiquette. When it comes to counter service, is the tip screen any different than the familiar cash tip jar? Does that well-known rule of 20 percent for sit-down dining apply to counter-service, takeout, or other orders?

Adrienne, 23, a host and server from Colorado, feels like it should depend on how much work the person on the other side of the screen has done: “If it’s a job, such as a barista, where you have an active part in assembling the order, [tip screen] tipping is fine. However, if it’s just me who takes the order and does [nothing] afterward, I feel like I’m getting paid to do nothing. It makes me feel bad to ask if I’m being honest because I’m well aware of the iPad tipping meme.”

@heartthrobertThat damn tip screen♬ original sound – Rob Anderson

According to Deborah King at Final Touch Finish School, it depends. King writes:

“Tipping is optional in counter-type service situations; tipping less than 20% is appropriate if you tip. However, you should consider the context. Are you a regular at that coffee shop or do you plan on staying a while? Did you place a large, complex order? Do you know if the clerks are paid at least minimum wage, which is not the case in some restaurant settings?

Often, it’s not the employees’ choice to put the tip screen up. It’s the business owner or even the software itself. So there’s no need to feel awkward not tipping for a coffee.“Electronic tip requests should never “guilt” you into leaving a tip. Your purchase, a smile, and saying “thank you” is often enough, but remember that tipping is easy—and for many service workers, a meaningful—way to express gratitude for exceptional service. How do you want to be remembered?” says King.

Other Restaurant Tipping Resources

• The Tip Jar: Tipping Resource Center
• Restaurant Tip Outs Guide: Methods, Tip Splitting, Pooling, and More
• 21 Unique Tip Jar Ideas + Advice on Getting More Tips For Your Restaurant or Cafe
• Free Restaurant Tip Pooling Calculator and Template
• The History of Tipping in Restaurants: The Complicated Past, Present, and Future
• [Updated for 2023] The State-by-State Guide To Tip Pooling Laws
• Restaurant Tip Pooling Software
• What is a Tip Credit? How They Work, Calculations, Laws, and More